Hi, my name is Kay Raymond, and I am so excited to help you find your happy dance. Sometimes it is easy to feel alone in our struggle and wonder how our life can ever look different than it is right now. I would love to tell you a little about my background, and how Joyful Hearts Mastery helped me to change my life, lean into JOY, and eventually share my happy dance with others (talk about vulnerability for someone who has 2 left feet). It’s easy to often feel alone in your struggles and that joy belongs to everyone else. I’m here to give you hope that joy is just around the corner for you. Actually, with the right tools you can feel JOY every day!
Growing up as the fifth child in a blended family with seven children my early childhood felt unstable and surrounded by chaos and trauma. Because of that chaos I have come to understand what it means to overcome traumatic situations and break chains to help my own family do the same. In my early childhood, I was exposed to both mental and physical health adversities through the struggles of my family and friends including Crohn’s Disease, Borderline Personality Disorder, Depression, Chronic Anxiety, ADHD, verbal, emotional, and sexual abuse, as well as teen pregnancy. I have watched those I love live through the loss and heartache that substance abuse, drugs, and alcohol create in a family.
As a teen I felt determined to be a chain breaker, and I knew with faith in Christ all things were possible. However, I did not escape my teen years without relying on the numbing effects of alcohol and cigarettes to bury my pain. I finally felt freedom from the trauma of my family when I joined the Navy (at 19) and served in the military for four years. While enlisted I met an awesome sailor that I knew I did not want to live without. This amazing man introduced me to the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints and later became my husband.
After finding the church I believed that I had left all my childhood trauma behind me and that I was starting new. This was my chance to really effect change and become the chain breaker I truly wanted to be. I was going to raise my children very differently than I was raised and I was going to live the perfect life. In many ways, I have been able to protect my children from the emotional and physical struggles of my past. However, life is not perfect, and I have found many of the struggles I would wish to avoid have found their way into our lives. My husband and I have both felt the effects of choices we have made and suffered on and off for many years. Sometimes the effects of the struggles in our lives and in our marriage have led to me to feeling alone, without worth, and even traumatized. As often happens, when our difficulties were brought to light, we have been able to touch it with love and begin to heal those wounds afflicting our family.
The struggles I have faced have really taught me the importance of being genuine, and compassionate towards others. I tell you all this to say, my life was filled with struggle, by the grace of God I got through it and I learned my happy dance. I started learning these skills in the fall of 2019. By applying these tools to my daily life, I began to connect with myself, by connecting to myself I began connecting to God, by connecting to God I began connecting so much better to those I love. I'm so excited to share what I've learned with you. Are you missing your happy dance? Let’s get started!